What are things you want to know when you run to a friend you haven’t seen in years?

No man is an island. We all know that, that is why we all have as we called them friends, or can be consider being a friend. Our friends may vary from us according to their attitudes, some of them are true and some are not. But of course we do have a true friend, lucky if you have them many. But life sometimes is playful to us that it takes away some of our friends from us. That was the sad part of it, leaving your true friend but the memories are still there in our heart and mind.

When you leave your friends in a very long time with some personal or social reasons, years past them out limiting are headlines about them. And when we meet them again, we have a lot of questions to ask to each other, we have a lot of plans in the future together and we hope he/she will not leave you as friend. But what actually are the things you want to know to your friend when you run to them without seeing each other in years?

Married?. This question may be the first thing you want to know after years of years that you’d be longing to your friend. “Are you married?”, will be the first topic in the first hour of conversation with your friend. This may be the question for those friends who have been away from each other and not seeing each other from 10 years. This may happen to your friend after graduating in your school, and he/she have to move for another place for better education or something. But after year of ten or fifteen, you might ask them if they already married. Sometimes if what have done to you is what you ask also to your friend, like if you are married or planning to be married, you might ask your friend if he/she also are married or have a plan to get married.

How are you?. Most of our conversation with our friends that we haven’t seen for weeks, months or years, starts from this question. “How are you?” is the first phrase around the conversation and then the next topic depends upon you two. Even if the time would be short, and you just met each other passing by but with a hurry, you may say a little bit “Hi” or “Hello” to each other and here comes ‘HAY’ (stands for How Are You). This is a good start also for a conversation, checking each other’s status, to lengthen the conversation and make some good relation and gestures with each other.

Your name again?. This may be the most embarrassing question you may ask to a friend you haven’t seen in a decade. A decade is ten years equivalent and ten years is very long enough to forget some you may call ‘friend’. Actually if you have a high memory about things, you can remember some moments with your friends even after ten years. “Your name again?”, is a question you might ask when you didn’t get your old friend’s look. You know things can change physically to us after ten years, and that may be the reason you may not remember your friend’s name because what you knew to him/her before has changed. Sometimes we are surprised about that, you know when your old friend is just like a pig before, and now he/she looks like a sexy model.

Have kids?. This question is like a pre-requisite of the question “Married?”. Of course when you ask your friend that you haven’t seen in year if he/she got married, and then he/she answers yes, you probably ask the next question “Have kids?”. You might ask this thing to your friend in some reason like when you know sometimes or you have an instinct that this friend of yours might have a kid. But sometimes what we don’t expect to our friends that may happen to them has the bigger chance and probability to happen to them, in an unexpected time and place. That is why sometimes in our gestures, we ask our friend that we haven’t seen in years if they have kids.